Holistic Counseling for Couples and Individuals.

Everyone deserves a place to reflect, heal, and grow.

Also specializing in loss and grief and women’s issues.

If you are exhausted and discouraged by your relationship or living with distress from trauma, schedule a free consultation today. We can begin the healing process to restore and reclaim your life.

Now scheduling new clients in-person in Seattle, WA and online in Washington State.

Gottman Couples Therapy

Hello and welcome,

My name is Shirley Chapman LMFTA, RN

  My background was in nursing before I became a marriage and family therapist through Antioch University. My passion is helping couples and individuals see themselves differently and recognize their strengths and goodness. As an Emotionally Focused Therapist, I specialize in understanding and transforming the core emotions that drive conflict and distance in relationships. This approach, deeply rooted in attachment theory, fosters trust, empathy, and emotional responsiveness between partners. By helping individuals or couples to identify, understand, and transform these underlying emotions, EFT strengthens bonds and creates a safe space for vulnerability. The effectiveness of EFT is consistently demonstrated in studies, making it a highly reliable method for resolving surface problems and the deeper emotional patterns that cause distress.

Individuals Therapy

Life is full of challenges and can often feel overwhelming.

Individual counseling can be a safe haven to navigate challenging issues and relationships. As well as a time for self-discovery and increased compassion to find the balance, peace, and confidence missing in your life. When working with individuals who have experienced trauma, I incorporate the theory of Internal Family Systems. This approach offers an understanding of people’s different ‘parts,’ often representing conflicting emotions, beliefs, or behaviors that can cause inner turmoil. IFS provides a compassionate framework to explore and address these parts without judgment, fostering self-awareness and inner peace. By connecting with your core 'Self'—the calm, compassionate center within—IFS empowers you to heal emotional wounds, resolve internal conflicts, and create lasting personal growth and balance. I will also introduce cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). This highly effective model addresses the connection between thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. It operates on the principle that distorted or negative thought patterns lead to emotional distress and maladaptive behaviors. By identifying these unhelpful thoughts, CBT helps individuals challenge and reframe them into more balanced and realistic perspectives. This, in turn, reduces negative emotions like anxiety, depression, and anger and promotes healthier behaviors.

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